Join Erin and Elana for a candid conversation about the messy, beautiful evolution of their coaching. From over-sharing personal details to struggling with neutrality in politically or spiritually charged sessions, they explore what it really means to stay present and serve the client rather than the coaching methodology.
They unpack their early-career habits of perfectionism and self-critique, how they learned to trust themselves more, and why being “the safe person on the outside” matters when working with clients whose worldviews differ from your own. They laugh about the “laws” of coaching school—never ask yes-or-no questions, never give advice, never mirror your client—and how breaking those rules often led to their most powerful sessions.
Whether you’re a new coach navigating feedback overload or a seasoned one reconsidering your boundaries, this episode reminds you that growth often happens in the gray areas between the “right” and “wrong” way to coach.
Themes explored:
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The fine line between warmth and over-familiarity with clients
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Recognizing and repairing when you step outside your scope
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Moving from self-scolding to self-trust in coaching sessions
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Why neutrality isn’t always the goal
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How different coaching modalities can complement each other
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The power of context and repair over rigid technique
Listen if you’ve ever wondered:
“How do I balance authenticity with professionalism?”
“What’s the real cost of following every coaching rule?” or
“Can a good cocktail make self-reflection easier?” (Spoiler: yes.)
Connect & Contribute:
Share your coaching confessions, awkward moments, or topics you’d love Erin and Elana to unravel next. Find them on Instagram or at besuperabound.com/coachingmixer
Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach.
Learn more at besuperabound.com
Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here and learn more about coaching with her here.
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