Before you read this, make sure you do the exercise and answer the four questions I asked you yesterday. Here is a video recap of what I asked from the Alive With Purpose Facebook Live just in case you want a refresher:
If you sat with these ideas and then you probably have a good idea of the reasoning behind why you are in your relationship in the first place and whether or not you would want to be in it if all your expectations were being met by you and not them.
So Should You Stay or Should You Go?
The answer is, you should do whatever you want to do as long as you aren't doing it because you believe that it is someone else's job to make you happy.
No one else can ever make you happy and it isn't their job to.
There isn't a perfect partner out there that is going to do all the things you like in exactly the way you like them. And if there were, I bet your brain would find a problem with how perfect they are.
What Most People Do
Most people when thinking about ending any relationship do one of the following options:
1. They stay in a relationship they don't enjoy because they are afraid of what they don't know. They complain constantly and blame everything negative in their life on their partner, but they never leave because they are so afraid that the next thing might be even worse.
2. Other people jump from relationship to relationship. They think the grass is always greener just down the lane and the moment they feel bored or unsatisfied they set fire to the relationship and get out.
The problem in both cases is that you aren't taking ownership of your own feelings. If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy and in either case, you will end up creating misery for yourself.
So you can decide to stay or you can decide to go.
The decision is yours- but be clear, it's not about what the other person did or didn't do, it's about what you made it mean.
If you decide to stay, I hope it is because you truly enjoy who your partner is and you are willing to take care of your own wants and desires so that you can fully enjoy being with them.
If you decide to go, I hope you don't feel the need to sabotage your relationship or find a big dramatic excuse. I hope you leave because you willing to take care of your own wants and desires and this relationship simply isn't one you want to be part of any longer.
Whatever you decide, I hope for you that you act from a place of ownership of your thoughts and feelings because that is true empowerment and an incredibly free place to live from.
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