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title: "Ep 24: The \"Hell No\" Filter: Boundaries, Beliefs, and Business Coaching"
description: Answering listener questions on navigating difficult coaching sessions while enjoying cozy winter drinks. Explore professional boundaries, trust, and curiosity in coaching relationships.
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# [Ep 24: The "Hell No" Filter: Boundaries, Beliefs, and Business Coaching](https://besuperabound.com/coachingmixer/ep-24-the-hell-no-filter-boundaries-beliefs-and-business-coaching)

 Written by [Erin Aquin](https://besuperabound.com/coachingmixer/author/erin-aquin) | Mar 4, 2026 9:52:29 PM

Grab a blanket and a mug: we’re answering listener questions while getting a little buzzed on cozy winter spirits.

Things get deep, a little spicy, and surprisingly "medicinal" as we dive into what happens when a coaching session hits close to home. How do you handle a client whose worldview makes you cringe? Can you coach someone you fundamentally disagree with? We explore the boundary between professional curiosity and personal "hell no’s."

### What’s in the Mug?

- **Elana:** Spiked Hot Cocoa. Heavy on the Bailey’s, sweet, creamy, and definitely not for kids (despite the "Best Dad Ever" mug—don't ask, we don't have children).
- **Erin:** A "Medicinal" Hot Toddy. Lemon, cinnamon, honey, and a healthy pour of bourbon courtesy of Steve. It tastes like health, but feels like a party.

### Why You Should Listen

If you’ve ever sat across from someone (or a Zoom screen) and thought, *"Did they really just say that?"*—this episode is for you. We pull back the curtain on the "Internal Coach Freakout" and discuss:

- **The Humanity Pivot:** How to use your own life experiences to open a client's mind without making the session all about you.
- **The Abhorrent Perspective Filter:** Why being a coach doesn't mean you have to help everyone (especially if they’re writing a TradWife guide to toppling feminism).
- **Relational Investigation:** How the safest spaces allow for the ugliest thoughts to be examined, questioned, and ultimately transformed.
- **The Power of the Pause:** Naming the sticky moments in a session to deepen the trust rather than running away from the discomfort.

### Key Takeaways

- **Conflict of Interest:** If you don't want your client to be successful because of their goals/values, you probably shouldn't be their coach.
- **The Barometer of Trust:** True coaching can't happen if a client feels they have to hide parts of themselves, even the messy parts.
- **Curiosity over Reaction:** Asking "How old is that belief?" is often more effective than "Why would you say that?"

## Connect With Us

Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller ["Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You](https://besuperabound.com/book)." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach.

Learn more at[ besuperabound.com](https://besuperabound.com/)

Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can [check out her free content here](https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/) and [learn more about coaching with her here](https://www.coachingwithelana.com/book-a-consult).

 

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