The Coaching Mixer

Ep 16: The Hidden Cost of "Staying Positive"

Written by Erin Aquin | Dec 12, 2025 4:15:46 PM

This week's episode takes on toxic positivity, not to bash optimism, but to untangle when “staying positive” actually blocks honesty, safety, and real change in coaching relationships. Erin and Elana explore how coaches can hold nuance, complexity, and emotion without rushing clients toward silver linings.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • What “toxic positivity” really is—and why it often comes from self-protection, not bad intent

  • How positivity can quietly disconnect clients from what they’re actually experiencing

  • Why emotional grit is often easier to coach than polished optimism

  • How coaches may unintentionally signal which emotions are “allowed” in the room

  • The subtle difference between respecting a client’s readiness and pushing for depth

  • What it actually takes to create a space where clients don’t have to edit themselves

This conversation is especially relevant for coaches working with leaders, founders, and high-functioning clients who’ve learned to keep it together at all costs. 

Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach.
Learn more at besuperabound.com 

Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here and learn more about coaching with her here.

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